Common Causes of Anger

Common Causes of Anger

Why Am So I Angry? We all experience anger. It’s a normal emotion, and “good” anger is meant to warn us that something is wrong.  Most people, however, view anger negatively; perhaps because we don’t like ourselves when we’re angry, and don’t like to be around others who are angry either. Although some anger is […]

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Five Characteristics of Abusive Relationships

Five Characteristics of Abusive Relationships

Not recognizing and setting boundaries on abnormal behavior. What is abnormal behavior?  It is offensive, disrespectful, unloving, intrusive, demanding, and harmful. It can include but is not limited to any of the following: insults, criticisms, demands, expectations, threats, rejection, neglect, blame, manipulation, punishment, terrorizing, ignoring, silent treatment, teasing, being the object of a joke, ridicule […]

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What is Emotional Abuse?

What is Emotional Abuse?

Many people have a difficult time defining this type of abuse, and often find themselves with just a sense that something is wrong in their relationships. While this inner feeling can indicate a number of problems, if we compare this sense of wrongness to known emotionally abusive behaviors, we can determine if we are experiencing […]

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What is Anger?

What is Anger?

So what is anger anyway? A quick Google search reveals that anger is “a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.”1 Wikipedia states it this way: “Anger is an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged or denied, and a tendency to react through retaliation.”2 The idea of being offended, wronged […]

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The Sheer Insanity of Perfectionism

The Sheer Insanity of Perfectionism

Have you met or seen any perfect people lately? How about that great speaker or amazing teacher from grade school or college. Or how about one of the amazing athletes from the Olympics last summer or your favorite sport. Tiger Woods anyone? Ok, so what about Dancing with the Stars or American Idol certainly, by […]

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Performance Orientation

Performance Orientation

Performance orientation is the context of this article refers to attempt conscious or unconscious to earn love or approval through rule based performance. In other words if I do things right people will like me if I screw up I’ll be rejected or somehow punished and/or rejected. It is important to understand that there are […]

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Shame

Shame

High on the list of common emotional wounds is shame. The person with unhealthy shame believes on some level (consciously, semi consciously, unconsciously) that they are deficient, defective, and unworthy. There are many ways this believe system can develop in an individual. It can be learned from parents who hold shame beliefs, it can be […]

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Do you need Emotional Healing?

Do you need Emotional Healing?

Have you ever found yourself stuck relationally or emotionally? Or maybe you’ve been deeply wounded by someone? Perhaps you keep lashing out at the people you love the most. Or maybe you’re being damaged by someone else’s anger. Maybe your caught in repetitive unhealthy habits or an addiction? Chances are you’ve been emotionally wounded… Maybe […]

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Hope for the Broken

Hope for the Broken

  The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me, because the Lord has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners,[a]2 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the […]

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