Sometimes it helps to think of the counsellor as a facilitator of improved relationships, enhanced communications skills and a guide for personal growth. At times the counselor is like a fitness trainer or a dance instructor, the counsellors' experience in behavior analysis, healthy and unhealthy relationships, and effective communication allows them to give expert feedback, correction and direction.
At other times the counsellor is like that teacher who provides a great environment for learning but allows you to discover the answer for yourself. Counsellors also model healthy relational skills as a way of both teaching these skills, and creating a safe environment. This safety with your counsellor is a critical ingredient for you to be heard and understood in the areas of your life where you need it the most. Like a good fitness trainer who understands your injuries and your weakness and focuses their effort into helping you heal and become physically fit, the counsellor understands where your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and relational skills need to be changed in order to help you attain you treatment goals.
Prospective clients should keep in mind that like any skill or goal, personal change and growth requires time and hard work. Sometimes this work is uncomfortable. People who continue with the process often experience increases in confidence and in the quality of their relationships. These changes often lead to a higher level of life contentment and success.